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Cliff Richard had a hit in 1979 with We Don’t Talk Anymore. The chorus to the song went; “It’s so funny, that we don’t talk anymore”, and he may have had a point. The thing is – it is not funny when communication breaks down in relationships; it’s actually very sad.

Relationships, be they personal, business or even romantic, do tend to break down or come under stress from time to time. So what do we need to do in order to reshape relationships?

One of the biggest problems is communication, or rather the lack thereof. People have to be able to talk about what is troubling them. If you keep things bottled up they will only grow to the point where they explode. While you need to talk, you should also be able to listen. Remember, you have one mouth and two ears. So listen twice as much as you talk.

Respect is very important attribute in relationships. You not only have to respect other people as individuals you also have to realize that their views on certain matter may differ from yours. Learn to respect that.

All healthy relationships require that there is give and take. If one person is doing all the giving and the other is doing all the taking it is an unhealthy situation and one that is doomed to failure.

Like anything worthwhile in life, relationships require work and can never be taken for granted. You need to be committed for it to work. You also need to accept the other person as they are and not as who you want them to be. Do not try and control the other person. Rather give them the freedom to be who they are.

While you may not always agree with the other person’s opinions, views, or decisions, the least you can do is support them. A supportive relationship gives us strength and reassurance and the knowledge that our partner is standing with us.
In any relationship there is going to be conflict at some stage. Conflicts need to be resolved as quickly and painlessly as possible. There is a wise old saying that says; “Never let the sun go down on an argument.” When dealing with conflict it is important to think before you open your mouth. Don’t say something in temper that you will regret later. Above all, there must always be total trust in each other.